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E-Steemed
Up!
Volume
6 |
| Inside
This Issue...
Greetings
from Betsy!
What
Children Teach Us About Creating Results
When
Dreams Connect
Attitude
Receive
the "Positive Quote of the Day"
Training
Gets Results
Here's
What They're Saying...
Obstacles are the things
we see . . .
. . . when we lose sight
of our goals.
-Lee Burgland |
Are
You Thriving or Surviving?
Have you considered lately
whether you are thriving, or merely surviving?
To survive means to continue to exist.
To thrive means to grow vigorously; to
progress towards the realization of a
goal.
Have you noticed how
hard it is to produce optimum results
when we’re in survival? Our self-esteem
and energy level tend to be low, and it
becomes challenging to focus on the task
at hand as part of the bigger picture—our
vision.
Survival is a place of
scarcity and minimal existence. It is
often filled with anxiety and worry. It
is not related to what we have, but to
our perspective of what we don’t
have.
However, there is a much
more powerful place to come from than
survival. We call it "thrival"
(the newest word in the Esteemed Human
Development dictionary).
"Thrival" is
grounded in joy and exuberance. When we
live in a context of "thrival"
there seems to be plenty of everything—health,
money, relationships, etc. Life tends
to flow in the direction we want, with
relative ease.
So the question of the
hour is, "How do I get from survival
to ‘thrival?’" New results
come from new thoughts and new actions.
Albert Einstein said, "One definition
of insanity is doing the same thing over
and over again, and expecting a different
result."
Self accomplishment experts
agree about the importance of creating
a vision and setting the necessary goals
to manifest that vision. However, when
we’re in survival we lose sight of
our dreams. It’s not enough to just
create the vision—we need to check
in from time to time and make sure that
what we’re spending our time and
energy on is getting us closer to that
vision.
A positive attitude is
also an essential component of thriving.
Negative thinking throws us into survival
immediately. Conversely, people who are
thriving live in a world of possibility.
They’re always exploring how things
can happen as opposed to why they can’t.
One of my favorite sayings
is, "Where your attention goes, the
energy flows!" The easiest way to
shift to a place of "thrival,"
is to notice where your attention is.
If you focus on lack, that’s what
you will produce. Focus on your blessings,
and they will multiply. Successful people
concentrate on the desired result, not
all the obstacles in the way. They’re
cognizant of the obstacles, but they don’t
give their power over to them.
Lastly, people who are
thriving know they are the only ones responsible
for the results in their lives. They are
not victimized by parents, bosses, the
government, the weather, inflation, their
job or their spouse. The only place they
look when they want something to be different
is in the mirror!
The bottom line is that
it all comes down to choice. We can choose
limiting beliefs that keep us in survival,
or we can choose the high road—"thrival."
It’s the place where dreams become
reality.
To schedule a training
on Creating Results, or to order a "Thrival"
Kit - our goody bag of reminders of how
to move from survival to "thrival",
call 818-904-0903
("Thrival" Kits are only $3
each).
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Betsy
A. Haas, M.A.,
Presdident
Esteemed Human Development, Int'l
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Welcome to this century’s final
issue of E-Steemed Up! This
is a time of year when we give thanks
for family and friends, for all we have
accomplished and for all life has given
us. I know my own list of blessings is
quite lengthy.
It is also a time of
reflection. |
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Am I where I thought
I would be at the turn of the century?
Have I accomplished all that I hoped to?
If not, what adjustments can be made?
This issue of E-Steemed
Up! is focused on Creating Results.
We create results when we remember:
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to be flexible
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to pick out the good
qualities in others
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to find the humor
in all situations
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to heal our hurt
feelings
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to list our blessings
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that everyone makes
mistakes and it’s OK
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and that we are worth
a mint!
Enjoy manifesting your
dreams. You deserve to have everything
your heart desires! |
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Children teach us so
many things. I’m talking about infants,
toddlers and preschoolers—kids that
have yet to learn fear, doubt and disapproval
(Negative thinking comes in so many varieties!).
Their days are filled with getting the results
that really matter to them. Here are a few
principles we would do well to learn from
children about how to achieve desired results.
Focus. Kids never
try to do more than one thing at a time.
Whatever they’re up to, it gets their
full and undivided attention.
Enjoy the Process.
To a child, getting dirty is part of creating
magnificent things. They love being actively,
passionately involved and thus are able
to create all the results they want with
pure joy.
 Abundance.
Children are adamant that there is enough
of everything for them to have what they
want. There is no place in their consciousness
for lack or scarcity.
Risking. Taking
risks comes very naturally for the young.
They actually think risking is FUN, until
we teach them to be afraid of disappointment
or failure. We are not born into this world
with fear—it is learned. No one has
ever become a success without taking risks.
 Perseverance.
When children want something badly, they
are relentless. Watch them learn to sit
up, walk or ride a bike. They don’t
give up when they stumble or fall. They
just get up and go for it again and again
until they have it mastered. This process
reinforces the belief that they can do anything!
 Approval
Not Required. While young children love
the approval of adults, if it’s not
forthcoming, they remain undeterred. Their
primary motivation is the pure joy of accomplishing
something that’s important to them.
They rarely let the opinions of others get
in their way! |
Betsy Haas
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I recently returned
from a most extraordinary experience, a
journey beyond anything I ever imagined.
I want to share this story of what happened
when my dream to teach internationally was
intertwined with the vision of a most remarkable
woman from Uruguay.
While attending a professional
conference in March of this year, I had
the good fortune to re-connect with a friend
and mentor, Dr. Jan Fish, who has been doing
research in Uruguay. I had not seen this
wonderful woman in 10 years. The next thing
I knew, I had a new penpal, a Uruguayan
by the name of Magela Guimaraes.
Magela Guimaraes
Although I had never met
Magela face to face (all our communication
was via e-mail), I began very quickly to
get a sense of who she is and what she’s
up to in this lifetime. Bursting with energy,
and spilling over with possibility, Magela
has a vision for her people. Dr. Fish had
given her a copy of E-Steemed Up!
, and she was eager to have the people of
her country benefit from self-esteem trainings.
As our visions continued
to evolve, Magela invited me to travel to
Uruguay to do a series of trainings in a
country where many of its citizens had forgotten
how to dream. I had the honor of facilitating
a three-day self-esteem workshop, doing
a radio interview, and being the keynote
speaker at a breakfast meeting. Magela titled
that meeting "Dare to Dream and Be
Whole," which spoke volumes to me about
where she was coming from.
My time in Uruguay was
unforgettable! I found the people incredibly
warm and open, with a thirst for learning.
When I first introduced the concept of "If
you can dream it, you can have it,"
they looked at me like I had lost my mind.
But as the week proceeded, we worked a lot
on expanding "what’s possible."
The events were all fabulous.
The breakfast meeting, attended by educators,
business people, members of the U. S. Embassy,
and more, was a huge success. As for the
self-esteem workshops, I can’t say
enough about the courage and commitment
of the participants. Time and again they
pressed up against the walls of their comfort
zone, and just kept going. In the end, I
think they were blown away by how much they
really do make THE difference!
Magela and her family were
soooo gracious to me. Magela, her
husband Gustavo, children Martin, Sophia
and Diego, and housekeeper/maid/cook/nanny
Marta lovingly handled absolutely everything
I wanted or needed.
While walking around Magela’s
beautiful hometown of Montevideo, I was
enthralled by the wide variety and magnificent
beauty of the doors. As my stay progressed,
they came to represent the wide variety
of doors that were opening in Uruguay because
of the phenomenal vision of one woman, Magela.
Shortly after my return
I received the following e-mail from Magela,
describing the week from her perspective.
"I cannot believe
your visit is over. We e-mailed for three
months and finally decided to make this
to happen: Esteemed Human Development International
coming to Uruguay. This is a simple sentence,
but what really happened was that many people
have been touched by your magic. We went
through wonderful experiences together.
You had been shocked by different doors.
Those doors were there to be knocked by
you.
Radio station Alfa FM
opened their door to you so a lot of Uruguayans
could know about your ideas—strong
ideas that can lead people to their best.
During a Breakfast Seminar you shared how
to dare to dream and be whole. It was just
a breakfast, but people asked for the lunch
and the dinner too. We worked during those
three days with a smaller group on how to
make THE difference in our lives. We certainly
learned a lot.
Uruguay's inaugural self-esteem
training
I attended the workshop
with my twelve-year-old daughter and had
a great experience. Learning that I am a
powerful person able to accomplish whatever
I want really made THE difference to my
life. I realized how much negative talk
I gave myself instead of focusing on the
very best of me.
Can you imagine this
powerful idea in the hands of a teenager?
The first thing she did was share this good
news with her classmates, and started being
more sensitive to her environment. She spread
the idea with passion, and at the same time
she wondered why should grown ups have negative
attitudes. Great start to a life that is
going to blossom in the next century.
Yes, the new millennium
is just about here and we want more support
on these topics—your visit was just
the beginning of something important and
needed in our country. A positive attitude
towards ourselves is the first step. Next
century will find Uruguay stepping to Make
THE Difference in South America. Thank you
Betsy !!! |
When nothing
seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter
hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred
times without as much as a crack showing
in it.
 Yet
at the hundred and first blow it will split
in two, and I know that it was not that
blow that did it, but all that had gone
before.
-Jacob
Riis |
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By Charles
Swindoll
"The longer I live,
the more I realize the impact of attitude
on life. Attitude, to me, is more important
than the facts.
It is more important than
the past, than education, than money, than
circumstances, than failures, than successes,
than what other people think or say or do.
It is more important than
appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will
make or break a company, a church, a home.
The remarkable thing is,
we have a choice every day regarding the
attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past;
we cannot change the inevitable. The only
thing we can do is play on the one string
we have, and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life
is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I
react to it.
And so it is with you.
We are in charge of our attitudes."
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E-Steemed Up!
is published quarterly by Esteemed Human
Development, International
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Esteemed Human Development International
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